We all hear about self-love and that it is important. Most of the time we nod our heads, or shake our heads, and just carry on about our day. We don’t really stop and think about just how important this really is.
I personally have huge issues around self-love. I think most women today share my pain with this. We are so hard on ourselves every day. We always think we are not good enough, smart enough, skinny enough, pretty enough, rich enough, fit enough, healthy enough etc. Sound familiar?
ENOUGH!! We are enough. Exactly as we are, we are enough.
Maybe that does not make much sense to you. I’ve read that saying, seen the hashtag and read a few blogs about being enough. Part of it makes sense, but my critical inner voice still shouts out – oh yeah? Does that happen with you?
February is the month of love. I decided that instead of focusing on loving others, let’s face it, that is easy. We can find so many reasons to love other people, our furry family or human family. But how hard is it to look at yourself in the mirror and appreciate yourself the same way you appreciate your lover, best friend, child or parent? When we look at the mirror we are generally frowning at ourselves and looking at all the things we don’t like about ourselves.
A few years ago I heard someone say if you treated your best friend the way you treat yourself, would you still be friends? That has stuck with me all these years, my answer would be no. I wouldn’t. Did I change though? Did I make an effort to treat myself any better? No, I didn’t. I carried on and continued to be critical.
A few months ago I joined an online community and app, it was diet and exercise related, but what surprised me most about this app was its strong focus on self-love and how to become your own best friend. It gave incredible tips and exercises to practice. It was not just saying a few words about it, but actually giving coaching on it. I have been doing some of the exercises and I have found it has made an incredible difference to me and my general feelings about myself. (email me for more info on this app if you’re interested)
For the first time in ages, I allow myself to be me. Yes, I still have days when I look in the mirror and get critical, but overall, I am being kinder to myself. I am still super stressed with building a business, I still want to achieve huge things. I am still the same as before, just gentler on myself. Being kinder to myself has helped me deal with all my other stresses so much better. I can focus on the issues and how to deal with them rather than beat myself up.
That was just my personal story that I wanted to share with you. I’ve done some reading on other benefits of self-love and these are just some of them:
- Less anxiety
- More optimism
- Better recovery from stress
- Easier to stick to healthy eating and exercise
- More mindfulness
- Being more comfortable in yourself
- Accepting our strengths and weaknesses
- Feeling more in control of your life
- Getting better at setting boundaries
- Better decision making for your own life
There are so many more examples of what the benefits are.
My aim is to share various ways we can all learn how to love ourselves more. I am still learning and am inviting you to join me on my journey. Let’s learn to love ourselves. Let’s become best friends with ourselves instead of our own worst enemies. We have enough external stress and drama in life, let’s stop adding to it and care for ourselves some more.
Are you going to join me?